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 There is no I in motherhood...
Wow... I am completely appalled at this book and those like it... Becoming a mother is a complete life change. Motherhood is about putting your child's needs before your own and making sacrifices to insure that your child grows up happy and healthy and able to face the world on his or her own. I wanted to cry for the author's poor child. Leaving a child in a store or throwing a child out of a window is nothing to joke about in a world where these things are actually being done to children by parents. The author is a very selfish person and shouldn't have had a baby or should have given her child up for adoption so that this child could be loved by someone who would want nothing more than to be dealing with the things this author complains about throughout the book.
 So True....
Well observed, well remembered, I empathised, laughed and cried along with Vicki. This is a great book for a first time Mother, place it on the table next to you while nursing and this book becomes your friend who understands everything!
 Mixed Reaction
Ok, so I am some mixed feelings about this book. I really wanted to like it. I was very excited to see a book that claimed to speak truthfully about what is to become a mom. And to it's credit, I think it was brave of the author to put it out there and not sugar coat what she experienced. Kudos to that. And yes, I can identify with the hardships that go along with becoming a mother.
But, on the other hand, there are a few things that bother me. And I am seeing more motherhood writings go in this direction, which I am not sure is a good one. It seems to be a pendulum swing too far in the opposite direction of the "Super Mommy" era when everyone felt like they had to do it all and suck it up. Now, in reaction to that, moms are saying "hey, I am not perfect, I can't do it all, and it's hard." And that's all well and good. But, as this book did, when we go to "hey, this is really hard, so I am going to let myself off the hook of doing what I really should because it's too hard, and I don't want to", then I think it has gone too far.
There is a part in the book where she has been gone from home over a weeknd and comes home to find that "there isn't any milk" and therefore stops breastfeeding. A little glossed over in the book. Like, oh by the way, darn, no milk, guess that's it. No apologies for the fact that if she really wanted to keep breastfeeding, she would have continued to pump. No apologies for the fact that she and the baby were doing fine breastfeeding, and the only reason she stopped, ultimately was because she didn't feel like keeping up with it anymore. Not that it didn't benefit baby, or that the baby wanted to stop. Just because she didn't want to. No focus about the reasons why this was, but plenty of focus on why all outside forces made her feel like she should do this or that, or lying to keep up and appear to be a "good mom."
I'd like to see less moms give themselves permission to be a self-serving mom, and more moms doing the best they can in their decision making. Even if you can't be perfect, try, at least, to not provide excuses for yourself just to eliminate guilt.
So, an interesting read, but to any future moms, know that this is only one mother's experience and certainly not representative of the average experience.
Covers all the basics and teaches common areas of confusion and concern.
When the author's daughter Blair was born she experienced maternal bliss with her new baby, until she began to doubt her skills. THE SECOND NINE MONTHS outlines the truth about her first months with her new baby, covering the common fears new mothers have about motherhood. Any new mother needs THE SECOND NINE MONTHS: it covers all the basics and teaches common areas of confusion and concern.
Yet another inept mother sallies forth ...
The usual nonsense from a narcissist who suffers attachment difficulties with her child and rationalizes her ineptitude by blaming the child.
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